Decide before the first waking
It is easier to choose a response when you are calm than during the third wake of the night. Think about the support your baby needs and agree with other caregivers on a familiar sequence. This guide concerns older-baby settling foundations; newborns need frequent feeds and hands-on care.
Observe, then respond
Brief stirring does not always mean your baby is fully awake. Listen and observe briefly when appropriate. If crying builds or your baby needs care, respond. There is no requirement to wait through distress or finish a timed pause before helping.
Use a gentle sequence
Offer your calm voice, then gentle touch if helpful. Pick up and comfort when needed, and feed when hunger is likely or a feed is appropriate. The sequence is flexible: meet an obvious need straight away. Age alone does not determine whether night feeds can be removed.
Keep the goal realistic
Aim for a response you can repeat while meeting genuine needs. Note bedtime, wakes and feeds for a few nights if useful. If waking remains difficult, Katrina can help you connect naps, bedtime and settling in a personalized plan, with follow-up as you practise.
Coaching and healthcare have different roles
This guide offers general education, not a medical assessment. Talk to a qualified healthcare provider about health, growth, feeding, breathing or persistent distress. For an urgent concern, seek urgent medical help.
Reliable parent resources
Health Canada: safe sleep for every sleep
Canadian Paediatric Society: healthy sleep